Dating he interested know online
When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.
I haven’t said one word about it since but I am wondering how long to wait.
I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.
I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.
What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.
I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
Try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him.
My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, I check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so.
I have read what you have written on this subject and I know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it?
Addressing the Active Profile Issue with Tact First off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.